Published on: Fri, 20-Feb-2015, 5:00 am
Pivoting is a Mind Exercise (a process) brought to the world by Abraham-Hicks during the 1980s.
This is a detailed description by me on how I practice it, and it is a completely modified (customized for myself) version of Pivoting.
This, according to me, is the simplest, yet the most powerful, and direct method to shift your focus, and thus, your consciousness from the unwanted to the wanted. The primary intention is to remind you to defocus from the unwanted, and re-focus on the wanted, Pivoting is the other more direct approach for doing that.
Anytime that you are feeling negative emotion, you are in a very good position to identify what it is that you are, in that moment, wanting - because never are you clearer about what you do want than when you are experiencing what you do not want. And so, stop, in that moment and say: Something is important here; otherwise, I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want? And then simply turn your attention to what you do want... In the moment you turn your attention to what you want, the negative attraction will stop; and in the moment the negative attraction stops, the positive attraction will begin. And - in that moment - your feeling will change from not feeling good to feeling good. That is the Process of Pivoting.
As you look for a better-feeling way to approach whatever you are giving your attention to; as you continue to ask yourself from your ever-changing vantage point, "What is it that I do want?"... Eventually you will be standing in a very pleasing place - for you cannot continually ask yourself what it is that you do want without your point of attraction beginning to pivot in that direction. The process will be gradual, but your continued application of the process will yield wonderful results in only a few days.
You have the ability to pivot under any and all conditions. But most of you are habitual in nature, and your patterns are so well entrenched that at times the fastest path to the joy you seek is for you to take your pivot as you sleep. By reaching for good-feeling thoughts before you go to sleep and then experiencing the benefit of the quiet mind that occurs while you sleep - and then upon awakening, immediately turning to good-feeling thoughts - you can accomplish the ultimate Pivoting experience. If you are very sensitive to the way that you feel, you may find one hundred to one thousand opportunities to pivot in just one day. However, there will not be one hundred or one thousand different things that you want. You will begin to discover that all of this pivoting is pointing to a few things that are extremely important to you: Freedom, usually highest in priority. Growth. Joy. Upliftment.
Let's understand how it works
According to me, Pivoting is a more sincere and a deliberate effort to change your thoughts. It is not to distract or divert you from the topic, but to take your thoughts in the direction that is more favorable to your feeling good directly about that very topic. In mechanical engineering, Pivot is the point of rotation in a lever system. That is an important point from where the rest of the mechanism can be adjusted / moved / shifted. That's exactly what we need to do with the mind. The moment when something unwanted happens and it hits you, that's the pivoting point from where you need to shoot out a better version of the ongoing thoughts and use that moment as an opportunity to get what you desire in life.
We often get bogged down by the contrast that life provides to us. Contrast refers to those circumstances that are something we would not like to have in life. These are not just the big life-changing events of life, but also the small-small day-to-day things (that appear trivial to a 3rd person, but are damn important to us!). We cannot control the world, and ideally we should not be influenced by it at all, however, we are on this journey at present, and although the actual situations may vary from person to person, it's ultimately the similar personality traits within all of us that cause us to be affected by external situations. I would not call them triggers / stimuli, because we are not machines. We do this exercise subconsciously very very rarely, and it auto-works for us all the time without our awareness, however, because most of the times we're unaware of the correlation of our thoughts and the positive results we see, we do not give it too much attention. If we can pay a little more attention and practice this exercise, we can realize that this is life-changing.
I find this process of Pivoting very directly beneficial and powerful. Instead of getting bogged down, why not trust the law of attraction, and understand that once we change our thoughts and vibrations, our life changes? Why not trust that everything that happens in life is for a reason and it always teaches you something, just that you need to be looking for learning something out of it. Otherwise, life just remains dull and monotonous.
Pivoting is different from Affirmations in two ways:
1. Pivoting is directly about the given topic, whereas Affirmations may or may not be general
2. Pivoting statements are always DIRECTLY applicable to you. They are like building blocks. However, sometimes Affirmations may be far-off from where you are at a given point in time, though not necessary.
At any given point of time, whenever you observe something that makes you feel un-good (I love my vocabulary), there are a few things you must NOT do:
1. You must not feel bad about feeling bad
Yes, anger is bad, jealousy is harmful, and hollowness is painful, but that doesn't mean by feeling those emotions you are being a criminal or a sinner. You are feeling those emotions because of the beliefs that you have accumulated over a period of time, and because those few beliefs defy the Purpose of your life, you feel those negative emotions. This is something to be understood and acknowledged, instead of feeling guilty about.
2. You must not feel good about feeling bad
In other words, you must not continue to be in that negative-feeling state without realizing that you need to do something about it. You must change your thoughts and come back to a better place. Many human beings are, strangely, addicted to feeling bad, and they enjoy that. For doing this, you may temporarily distract from that topic, feel better, and then come back to the actual Pivoting methodology, and that's perfectly fine too.
3. Take action to try to fix / change it
When you are feeling bad, no matter how good you think your action is, it will never fructify. Anytime you take an action from a place of lack it always backfires. It is like trying to cook a good dish with an ingredient that is decayed.
How to Pivot...
This is exactly what you need to do - the moment you see something that makes you feel un-good (I so love my vocabulary), just tell yourself what you would like to see in life that makes you feel good now. That's all that pivoting is. This may sound / appear silly, but it works, and if it works, it doesn't matter if it appears silly.
In other words, when you're facing something unwanted in any area of life, you got to acknowledge it, and sit down, and pivot around that very area, and start mentally moving in the direction of what you want in that area of life.
You do not need to focus on the negative while Pivoting. You only need to be aware of it. Being aware of the negative elements in life and acknowledging them is the first and the necessary step in any Mind Exercise.
A few tips:
A. It is not compulsory to verbalize it i.e. say it with your mouth, because finding the exact words could be tough in some situations. It's not about words, but feelings, however, verbally talking to yourself is highly effective too.
B. Just think and feel briefly about what you want in the area that is causing you pain. If possible, take some time, and take the next step of thinking / feeling / saying it more clearly.
C. Make one statement or more, doesn't really matter as long as the statement is in the direction of what you want, which will obviously and naturally make you feel good
D. If one statement doesn't seem to make you feel good, make more statements gently, clearly, and slowly until you at least get out of the bad feeling. You may end up saying a couple of statements that don't feel good, until finally you stumble upon one that feels good. This really comes with practice.
E. You do not need to be Black & White. You can be more flexible and general. Don't try to change 360o if it isn't possible in a moment. Shift slowly and gradually. For example, if you are facing problems with your boyfriend, and your present dominant thought is, "I have issues with my boyfriend", you cannot take a leap to say, "I am having a good time with my boyfriend". It is untrue and it will feel fake. Just gradually make some general statements around the area of 'boyfriend / relationship' and move in the direction of what you want i.e. in this case "I want to have a good relationship with my boyfriend"
F. Make only those statements (thoughts) that make you feel good. If any thought doesn't make you feel good, try to slowly modify it and choose a thought that feels only good or better.
G. As Abraham says, you do not need to create / choose the best available thought in the world or in any book or as proposed by someone. You know your thoughts the best, and they are very specific to a given context, so you need to choose the thought that's the best-feeling for you in that moment.
H. Don't be scared of your own thoughts. Don't try to hide them from the Universe. Don't try to skip / avoid them. State them clearly (what you don't want), and then state its opposite (what you do want), and then build a bridge, gradually, using your own beliefs and even imaginary, good-feeling, positive statements. Humor helps too.
I. Sometimes there are worries related to the future, "What if this happens?". Don't suppress those thoughts thinking, "Worrying is not good, so let me stop worrying". You cannot stop worrying without re-creating anti-worry (positive) thoughts. Sit down, stop your TV / music, and say, "I fear that this will happen. I don't want this to happen." and then say, "Now, as per the pivoting exercise, let me create another thought that I think is feasible about WHAT I WANT..." It doesn't need to be the most ideal thought in the world. It just needs to be another positive thought that makes you feel good, and which YOU believe in. Remember, "knowing / being aware of what you don't want" is different from "focusing on and worrying about what you don't want".
J. Most important point - you don't have to think about something with the view, "This will make me feel good in the future". You have to think about the things that make you feel good NOW.
K. Do it as often as you can, but if it gets too much of a burden, take a break.
L. If you write these statements, write them such that they feel good whenever you read them. However, even if you start with statements that are slightly negative, that's fine. Revisit those statements later and refine / polish them, to make them feel / sound more positive.
M. Never use conditional statements while Pivoting. Well, you may start with them, but remember to change them. Conditional Statements may feel good in one moment, but not in another moment. We want to stick to general statements that always feel good.
N. Never use people in your thoughts or forcefully try to create their false positive images in your mind. Restrict the Pivoting thoughts only to yourself.
Abraham calls these 'downstream' thoughts i.e. the thoughts that are in the direction of what you want, the thoughts that make you feel at ease, the thoughts that bring you relief.
When and how much to Pivot
If you're facing something and feeling bad about it, either you can pivot immediately if possible, or if you're in a moment when pivoting may not be immediately possible, you can always tell yourself, "Hey me, let me pause my emotions for the time-being. It's feeling awful, but if not anything, I at least have the ability to control my emotions right now. Let me pivot on this scenario once I'm away from here." Then go back to your desk or home i.e. once that scene is over, pivot. You may choose to fix a time and pivot at that time. You may also choose to do this before going to sleep at night. Feeling good before going to sleep at night highly benefits your life experiences, because you let that positivity stay unadulterated within you for at least 8-9 hours.
The purpose of Pivoting is not to forcefully make something happen, because CREATION never happens forcefully. Creation is a natural process that can ONLY be accomplished with a natural, normal, stable, and pure state of mind.
Pivoting is a fun process that helps in not only making you feel better about a given topic, but also help you gain clarity about what exactly it is that you want. It is a catalyst in changing your beliefs and making you more creative in your mind. That is when nice people start flowing to you and nice things start happening in your life. Pivoting, according to me, not only improves any area of your life that needs improvement, but it can also turn an ordinary / good area to great / extraordinary, if done regularly. The only thing you need to do is to trust the capable Universe, the powerful Law of Attraction, and that Pivoting works. You don't need to study this knowledge deeply. You just need to trust that if you stay positive, cheerful, hopeful, and happy no matter what (or at least try to make little efforts in that direction), your life changes.
Ideally, Pivoting should be done 24 / 7, isn't it? You should constantly be moving in the direction of what you want.
Refer detailed examples that you can help build your chain of Thoughts.
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You can get my personalized guidance for Pivoting one or more area(s) of your life as part of my Work With Me programme called Pivoting Guidance.
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